The Empty Space You Left: Coping with Loss

In memory of: Sandra “Tee-San” Williams.

I made your favorite tomato soup today. Just the right sweetness, a little bit of spice and chunky, just like you like it.

I reached for the phone to see if you were home so I could bring you some, and it hit me again. You are not in your earthly home any longer.

I prayed it was a dream for that split second.

You were my neighbor, friend, 2nd mom, and part of the family. Grief has become my new friend.

I try to remember those moments and hold them close to my heart. It’s hard to believe you are gone. Your sudden passing left us all in shock, and we’re still trying to make sense of it.

I catch myself looking to see if you’re home when I drive by, and then reality hits. It will never be the same.

Life continues, but it stands still at the moment we lost you. The words cut like a knife.

You had the best laugh, one that could fill a room and lift anyone’s spirits. I can still hear it in my mind, echoing in the silence that follows when I realize you’re not there to share it with anymore.

You loved others so deeply and unconditionally. You made everyone feel seen, heard, and loved, and that’s a rare gift. You had a way of bringing light to the darkest days, and your joy was infectious.

I don’t like questioning the plan. You were the one who gave us a place of peace, safety, comfort, and sometimes a swift kick in the butt when we needed it.

You didn’t let anyone get away with ugliness.

You were so much more than just a family member or a friend. You were a confidant, a guide, and a pillar of strength. But no matter what, you ensured others knew how much you cared about them.

I guess that’s why it’s so hard to admit you’re gone. My brain has processed it, but my heart refuses to accept it.

There’s a hole in my heart that I’m not sure will ever heal.

I’ll continue, just like you taught us. I know that’s exactly what you would want. You always encouraged us to find joy and laughter, even amid sorrow.

But I know there will never be a day that I don’t miss you and all that you were to me. The world feels a little less bright without you, but your spirit lives on in the love and memories we share.

In those quiet moments, when the world feels too heavy, I’ll think of your laugh and how your eyes lit up when you smiled.

I’ll remember the warmth of your words. I’ll hold onto the lessons you taught us about love, resilience, and finding joy in the little things.

We’re all still in shock, grappling with the void you left behind. But we’ll honor your memory by living fully and loving deeply as you did.

You may be gone, but you will never be forgotten.

Rest in peace, knowing you were loved beyond measure and will be missed beyond words. I hope Heaven has tomato soup for you.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Is grief a part of you? What do you remember most clearly about a loved one who passed away recently? What memory do you cherish the most about them?

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