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Do you remember how easy it once was to make friends? A classroom, a shop floor, a
neighborhood full of kids on bicycles—people simply landed in your life. Then careers ended,
children grew up and moved away, and some of the faces we counted on moved on or passed
on. Many Boomers look up one day and find their circle quietly smaller than it used to be. That is
not a failing. It is simply life. But it is something we can do something about.
“Friendship is not a luxury of youth. It is one of the best things we can
build at any age.”
Why Friends Matter More Than Ever
Study after study has linked strong social ties with better health, sharper thinking, and a longer
life. Friends give us someone to laugh with, someone to call when the news is bad, and a reason
to get dressed and leave the house. In retirement, when the built-in structure of work disappears,
friendship becomes the structure that holds our days together.
Go Where the Regulars Go
Friendships rarely begin with a grand moment. They grow out of repetition—seeing the same
faces at the same place again and again. Join a walking group, a book club, a church committee,
a woodworking class, or a volunteer shift at the library. Pick one activity and show up every
week. By the third or fourth visit, strangers become familiar, and familiar faces become the kind
of people you want to sit next to.
Make the First Move
Here is a secret: most people are waiting for someone else to reach out. Invite a neighbor over
for coffee. Send a note to someone you enjoyed talking with once. Suggest lunch after the
meeting. Some invitations will be declined, and that is fine. A busy calendar is not a rejection. It
only takes a few yeses to change the shape of your week.
Tend the Friends You Already Have
Old friendships need watering too. Pick up the phone instead of waiting for a birthday. Write the
kind of letter that arrives in a mailbox rather than an inbox. Remember the small things—their
favorite pie, their grandchildʼs name, the appointment they were dreading—and ask how it went.
Being the friend who remembers is a rare and wonderful thing to be.
Our generation has always known how to bring people together, from dorm rooms to
demonstrations to backyard barbecues. That skill hasnʼt gone anywhere. It just needs a little
practice and a little courage.
Now weʼd like to hear from you. Where did you meet your closest friend, and what keeps
that friendship strong? Have you made a new friend since turning 60? Share your thoughts
and stories in the Comments section below and join the conversation.
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